How Do You want to Be Remembered by Nancy Newman


Have you considered how your friends, family and the world will remember you after you have passed?  Following the death of Elizabeth Edwards in December, 2010, I was touched by her daughter’s eulogy in which she referred to her mother as a “lighthouse to us all.”  Friends referred to Elizabeth as intelligent, compassionate, articulate, and assertive.

It resonated with me because these are some of the ways in which I want to be remembered after I’m gone.  I hope people will say about me: “Nancy was intelligent, compassionate, articulate, patient, generous, a great listener, a compelling writer, a wonderful teacher and mentor. She made a difference in my life and was a lighthouse to us all.”

As I contemplated this thought, it suddenly dawned on me:  To be remembered in these ways, I have to be LIVING THAT LIFE NOW!  I can't just think I will start doing those things "someday," or simply "hope" that people will perceive me in those ways.  I have to BE a lighthouse now.  I have to BE compassionate, articulate, generous, etc., right now.  As Ovid said, "If you want to be loved, be lovable." It is such an obvious, simple concept, but that moment was an "a-ha" moment of transformation for me. Since that epiphany, I strive to BE that person every single day.

How are you currently living your life?  Are the qualities you consistently express the ones you want for your eulogy? Do you want to be remembered as critical, judgmental, impatient, and stingy – OR would you rather be remembered as generous, patient, non-judgmental and accepting of everyone?

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YOU hold the power to change.  Your beliefs and thoughts of the past year, the past month, the past week, the past hour, the past minute and the past second have created your current reality.  But a belief is only a thought, and thoughts can be changed.  The point of power is right now: This very second!  Your future is being created by your beliefs and thoughts in the next second, the next minute, the next hour, the next week, the next month, the next year.  

Don’t wait, the time is NOW!  It is never too late to begin living the life for which you want to be remembered!  Every second is a new opportunity to transform.

How do you want to be remembered?  Start living your eulogy right now, this very second!


NANCY A NEWMAN Is a best-selling author, speaker, radio show host for and an advisor at She is also a registered Master Toe Reader and on-line instructor for southwest institute of healing arts. Nancy has training in may modalities including being a licensed Louise Hay Heal your Life Coach, trainer and workshop facilitator. She brings her message of empowerment to people throughout the world by teaching the tools for healing., Loving yourself, and discovering the peace within.