How Do You want to Be Remembered by Nancy Newman

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Have you considered how your friends, family and the world will remember you after you have passed?  Following the death of Elizabeth Edwards in December, 2010, I was touched by her daughter’s eulogy in which she referred to her mother as a “lighthouse to us all.”  Friends referred to Elizabeth as intelligent, compassionate, articulate, and assertive.

It resonated with me because these are some of the ways in which I want to be remembered after I’m gone.  I hope people will say about me: “Nancy was intelligent, compassionate, articulate, patient, generous, a great listener, a compelling writer, a wonderful teacher and mentor. She made a difference in my life and was a lighthouse to us all.”

As I contemplated this thought, it suddenly dawned on me:  To be remembered in these ways, I have to be LIVING THAT LIFE NOW!  I can't just think I will start doing those things "someday," or simply "hope" that people will perceive me in those ways.  I have to BE a lighthouse now.  I have to BE compassionate, articulate, generous, etc., right now.  As Ovid said, "If you want to be loved, be lovable." It is such an obvious, simple concept, but that moment was an "a-ha" moment of transformation for me. Since that epiphany, I strive to BE that person every single day.

How are you currently living your life?  Are the qualities you consistently express the ones you want for your eulogy? Do you want to be remembered as critical, judgmental, impatient, and stingy – OR would you rather be remembered as generous, patient, non-judgmental and accepting of everyone?

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YOU hold the power to change.  Your beliefs and thoughts of the past year, the past month, the past week, the past hour, the past minute and the past second have created your current reality.  But a belief is only a thought, and thoughts can be changed.  The point of power is right now: This very second!  Your future is being created by your beliefs and thoughts in the next second, the next minute, the next hour, the next week, the next month, the next year.  

Don’t wait, the time is NOW!  It is never too late to begin living the life for which you want to be remembered!  Every second is a new opportunity to transform.

How do you want to be remembered?  Start living your eulogy right now, this very second!

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NANCY A NEWMAN Is a best-selling author, speaker, radio show host for 12radio.com and an advisor at 12listen.com. She is also a registered Master Toe Reader and on-line instructor for southwest institute of healing arts. Nancy has training in may modalities including being a licensed Louise Hay Heal your Life Coach, trainer and workshop facilitator. She brings her message of empowerment to people throughout the world by teaching the tools for healing., Loving yourself, and discovering the peace within. 

28 Easy Peasy Ways to Manifesting by Melisa Caprio

Be thankful for the great things that you already have in your life. Try writing in a gratitude journal or just taking a few minutes before you go to bed to think of all the good things that happened to you that day.

Example: Be thankful for the relationships that you had, even though they ended. Be thankful for your friends and family who love you. This will attract even more love into your life.

Make A Manifesting Postcard – (I can help you with this)

Create a Manifesting Postcard. Cut out (or print out) pictures and words that represent your dream on your postcard, and mail them out to the Universe.  Make a copy and print it and place it somewhere you will see it daily. This will help you visualize your dream

Example: If you are trying to attract a soul mate, you may want to put pictures of a happy couple, of a house you will live in, of what your bedroom might look like etc. Tip: do not focus on physical characteristics of your perfect partner too much (like hair or eye color); it is more about what your lifestyle will be like and how he would make you feel.

Visualize

You can use the postcard to help you visualize your dream, but you can also do that without it. Just close your eyes and try to imagine your dream coming true, focus on the details and the feeling that you would have.

Example: Imagine going on a holiday together with your soul mate. Where will you go? What will you do? Imagine holding his hand in the airport, or lying on the beach together.

Use Affirmations

Choose a few positive affirmations and repeat them every day.

Example:  “Love is coming my way” or “I am in a happy relationship”.

Meditate

Regular mindfulness practice will help you reach peace of mind and wellbeing, greater focus, and a more positive outlook on life.

Example: Sit down in a comfortable position, close your eyes and focus on your breath. Keep your mind from wandering. Start with 2-5 minutes of meditation a day. Or follow along with a meditation mp3. There at tons of free ones on YouTube.

Abundance List

This is similar to a gratitude list, but it is an expanded version and you can also add all the things that you are looking forward to.

Example:  “I am so looking forward to my vacation” or “I’m going out with my friends this weekend”.

Goal Setting

First, it is important to actually set a goal. Decide in your mind that this is something you are going to accomplish. Write it down to make it more real.

Example. “By the end of this year, I will double my income”.

Talk About Your Dream

After setting a goal, it helps to share it with others to send a message to the universe that you are serious about this goal and to get the support of your loved ones.

Example: Tell your best friend that you are ready for a new relationship and that you will start looking for love.

Carry A Talisman

Sometimes it helps to choose a small object, something precious to you a good luck charm, a stone or crystal would be great... filled with positive energy, and carry it around to remind you of what you are trying to attract.

Example – Rose quartz crystal is perfect for manifesting love.

Emotional Freedom Techniques

You can use EFT (Tapping) to clear resistance (old blocks or limiting beliefs that contradicts your desire).  The basic idea is to lightly tap your fingertips on acupuncture points while expressing affirmations.

Example:  Repeat abundance affirmations and reminder phrases while tapping various acupressure points on your body with your fingers. To find out how to do tapping there are how-to videos on YouTube.

Motivational Audio Books

Audiobooks are a great way to get the inspiration and the motivation that you need while on the go. You can do other things while you get everything read out to you.

Example – Listen to a great book as you are driving to work. Makes being in traffic much more pleasant.

Play Happy Music You Want To Dance To

This causes your energy vibration to go up and give you the feeling of happiness. You are raising your vibration.

Example – Blast inspiring music as you do your household chores. It makes them more fun.

Live “As If”

Start immediately living as though that reality is already yours.

Example: Buy clothes that you would wear on a date with your soul mate.

Spread Positivity

Smile, laugh, say nice things to people. Be supportive. Open doors, allow cars to go in front of you. Stop complaining. Share uplifting stories on your social media.

Example: Your friend got their dream job.  Be happy for them, ask questions, make positive comments.

Do Random Acts Of Kindness

Part of spreading positivity is doing random acts of kindness. Commit to doing this at least a few times a week.

Example: Put some coins in someone else’s parking meter. Give someone a compliment. Pay for the person’s coffee behind you in line just because. If you have some spare time, volunteer at your favorite charity.

Inspirational Quotes

Read motivational quotes whenever you get a chance. They will remind you that you can achieve whatever you want.

Example: “What you are seeking is seeking you.”

Let Go

It is important to let the Universe do its thing. To stop obsessing about something, and worrying that it will not happen. Let it go and relax.

Example: Do not complain that you don’t have the money yet, do not make every second of your life about your bank account, continue living your life and being happy.

 

Create A To-Do List

What steps are you going to take towards your goal? How will you be ready to seize the opportunity when the Universe sends it to you?

Example:  Maybe it’s connecting with the person who is making the money you want to make and picking their brain on what advice they can offer and what steps they took. Find a book on financial abundance and follow the examples.

Make A Wish List

This is to help you be more specific about what you want. Sometimes we don’t get exactly what we want because we were not clear enough about it when we were sending out messages to the Universe.

Example:  Make a list of qualities that you want your partner to have and what will be important to you in your relationship.

Get Rid Of Negativity

Cut out negative people from your life. Those who are constantly in a bad mood and see life as “a glass half empty”.

Example:  Have a friend who is always complaining that life isn’t fair and they can never get ahead. Wish them well but limit the time you spend with that person.

Get Rid Of Limiting Beliefs

Do your homework and find out what are your limiting beliefs. Once you have identified it, try to understand why you think that. And realize that belief is no longer serving you.

Example:  I am not good enough to do that job for that person, etc... The list can be very long. EFT is great for ridding yourself of limiting beliefs. .

Di-Clutter

When you’re able to free yourself from the stresses and obstacles caused by disorganization, you’ve just paved a clear path to everything you want in life.

Example: Throw away old things in your house that trap a lot of negative energy, like old clothes, magazines, newspapers etc. or give away things that you don’t use anymore that may benefit someone else.

Read More

Read a book that will help you focus on your goal and stay motivated. You can also read books about the Law of Attraction to discover the best methods of using LOA tools to attract what you want.

Example:  You may want to read biographies of people who are very successful in their profession as you want to be.  Or watch movies that represent what it is you are looking for.

Believe In The Law Of Attraction

You need to truly believe that you can obtain the things you want in life.

Example:  Do not worry that you haven’t met your soul mate, know that you will. And until then use this time to enjoy your freedom and get to know yourself outside of a relationship better.

 

Surround Yourself With People Who Think The Same Way

Hang out with people who have the same goals as you are. And who believe in the power of the Law Of Attraction. You will exchange positive energy and support each other.

Example – You were invited to a meetup with a group of people who have similar interests that you do. Make time to go.

Make Room For What Is Coming In Your Life

The Universe will send you what you’ve asked for; your job is to be open and ready to receive it and not to stand in your own way.

Example: Have you been invited to a wedding in 6 months? Ask if you can bring a +1, who knows, you may be in a relationship by then.

Play Out Your Movie

Do visualizations and watch yourself as if watching you be the star of your own movie. Include the scene, the smells, the sights, the sounds, taste and touch. Who’s there with you? What are you doing? How are you feeling?

Example: What does your wedding scene look and feel like? Or how are you feeling when your book gets published and you are on your book tour. Put everything you can think of in your movie.

And Most Important – HAVE FUN!

Xoxo ~ Melisa

 Melisa is an author, photographer and creator of Postcards to the Universe™ A Global Movement for Manifestation, and is inviting people from around the world to participate in this movement. By using photography, art, personal wishes and desires and sending them out to the Universe via a postcard. She is photographing the image, the art and handwritten desire. Her book is a beautiful, visual representation of people creating and manifesting their greatest desires and posting on her blog. To Join Melisa in this movement go to www.postcardstotheuniverse.com  Postcards to the Universe is for the person who proactively seeks out a more fulfilled life through radio shows, seminars, books and videos, some who may be dissatisfied, possibly living for other people and putting dreams on hold.  Melisa has been featured and interviewed on her Postcards to the Universe book and project on numerous radio shows. Her project and photographs have been in the local newspaper. And she displays her photographs on a regular basis in fine art galleries in South Florida. She is the author/publisher of Creative, Fun and Easy Tips on How to Photograph Children and Animals and Smart-Ography: Simple Tips on the Art of iPhone and Android Photography (Amazon).   

Melisa is an author, photographer and creator of Postcards to the Universe™ A Global Movement for Manifestation, and is inviting people from around the world to participate in this movement. By using photography, art, personal wishes and desires and sending them out to the Universe via a postcard. She is photographing the image, the art and handwritten desire. Her book is a beautiful, visual representation of people creating and manifesting their greatest desires and posting on her blog. To Join Melisa in this movement go to www.postcardstotheuniverse.com

Postcards to the Universe is for the person who proactively seeks out a more fulfilled life through radio shows, seminars, books and videos, some who may be dissatisfied, possibly living for other people and putting dreams on hold.

Melisa has been featured and interviewed on her Postcards to the Universe book and project on numerous radio shows. Her project and photographs have been in the local newspaper. And she displays her photographs on a regular basis in fine art galleries in South Florida. She is the author/publisher of Creative, Fun and Easy Tips on How to Photograph Children and Animals and Smart-Ography: Simple Tips on the Art of iPhone and Android Photography (Amazon).

 

Why I Write by Dr. Elisa Robyn

Several years ago I wrote my first novel, a spiritual romance based on Kabbalah and a heroine’s journey. I have dreamed of being an author since I discovered reading, but found that sharing my writings was often a dangerous experience. Rather than helpful reviews I would receive condemnation on my efforts, but not for the typical reasons.

I would expect to be told that I need to work on character development or plot, or even my level of description. Any of that would help me become a better writer. The feedback I received, however, taught me to be cautious about sharing my creativity.

Initially I asked people I knew from my spiritual and religious life to read my novel and give me feedback. Some of them were also aspiring authors. The feedback sounded much like this:

    • I know you gave me your book to read, but I can’t remember if I read it;
    • So many authors’ first books are autobiographical. That does not work;
    • I found a typo on page 37. Don’t you know how to proofread?
    • Do you know that you write seductively? I am not sure that works;
    • It sounds like you don’t understand character motivation. What kind of motivation is spiritual growth?
    • I think you need more work on your spiritual understanding;
    • It sounds like you finally got in touch with your emotions.

I do not know why this surprised me. Some of the first feedback I received as a child was from my grandmother who after hearing one of my ghost stories, asked “Can’t you write about nicer things?” She also told me to major in English and learn to spell. 

I have received, of course, great feedback from my closest friends. But this experience made me even more reticent to share my writing. I can stand up and speak in huge auditoriums full of strangers, but I felt naked when I shared my writing. Until I realized that writing a novel was more than many of my critics had accomplished. They were not critiquing me, they were critiquing themselves. My efforts, successful or not, threatened their personal story of being a spiritual leader who someday would write an amazing book. They experienced my creativity as a judgment in a zero-sum game where only a set number of people can be successful. 

This made me wonder, why does my adventure, or creativity or success or commitment to personal growth evoke anger or fear in others? Perhaps more importantly, why should I care? I am not, in the end, writing for them anyway. I am writing for myself, fulfilling the dream of being an author that has haunted me since childhood.

 Every published author I know says the secret to writing is to write. Daily. Everywhere. About anything and everything. Write and write and write, without thinking about the critics. Add to that, every great writer is also a reader, and probably an observer of the world around them. I watch people interact which helps me write better dialogue. I read books and learn from the mistakes and triumphs of others. I joyfully celebrate when other authors are successful. I engage in my life, as well as in my dreams. 

I have learned to let others judge and fall victim to jealousy, played out through destructive criticism. Truth be told, I do not like Hemingway or Melville, but I doubt they would care. They wrote because it was who and what they were meant to do. I am meant to write and speak and share my dreams of the future. I have been fired for this authenticity, but in the end I am the winner with a free and soaring heart, defying gravity. I am an artist of words and fibers and phrases and dreams. And if you happen to love what  I create, then be inspired by it, and find your own renaissance of spirit. 

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DR. ELISA ROBYN, A MODERN-DAY RENAISSANCE EDUCATOR AND LEADER, IS THE AUTHOR OF THE WAY OF THE WELL, A SPIRITUAL ROMANCE, AND PIRATE WISDOM, LESSONS IN LEADERSHIP. HER ECLECTIC CAREER POSITIONS INCLUDE GEOLOGIST, DEAN OF ARTS AND SCIENCES, VICE PRESIDENT OF ACADEMIC AFFAIRS, FUTURIST, AND INNOVATIVE MOJO COACH. CURRENTLY, ELISA IS AN EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR AT REGIS UNIVERSITY. SHE HOLDS A MASTERS DEGREE FROM THE UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA, SANTA BARBARA, AND A PH.D. FROM THE UNIVERSITY OF COLORADO, BOULDER. HER MOST CURRENT WRITINGS CAN BE FOUND AT:

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Elisa Robyn

Dr. Elisa Robyn, a modern-day Renaissance educator and leader, is the author of The Way of the Well, a spiritual romance, and Pirate Wisdom, lessons in leadership. Her eclectic career positions include geologist, Dean of Arts and Sciences, Vice President of Academic Affairs, Futurist, and Innovative Mojo Coach. Currently, Elisa is an executive director at Regis University. She holds a Masters degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, and a Ph.D. from the University of Colorado, Boulder.