the Kraken was a No Show by Dr. Elisa Robyn

It was a hot summer day and I needed an adventure, real or imagined. So I launched my ship (well, my kayak actually) at a local lake and opened my imagination to potential escapades.

The Kraken, the huge mythic octopus, was a no-show, which I expected. The lake is very far inland and smaller in size, so the secret underground channels to the sea might not be tempting today, and Poseidon might have other plans for his pet. But one can never be sure when it comes to magical beings, so it is always good to be prepared. However, the waters were calm on the lee side of the lake, which created a perfect breeding ground for the giant octopus. Some of her children were there trying to grab the bow of my ship and pull me down to the depths, but I escaped.

There was a giant mythological bird cleverly disguised as a bald eagle who watched my vessel pass through the waves. Clearly she was considering landing on my foredeck and sharing profound spiritual secrets with me, though she was called away before we could talk. Perhaps a shaman needed her presence for a healing. Then again, perhaps I only needed to see her to understand that she offered a message of freedom.

There were also mud swallows looking out from their nests, reassuring me that should the wild waters sink my vessel they would carry my soul to heaven. Or perhaps they were warning me that danger laid waiting around the bend in the form of Cerberus hiding in the tall grass. I heard the rustle of the bushes and looked up to see a dog head and a possible snake tail, but Cerberus is difficult to see as she often shape-shifts into other creatures. I had been dreaming about rattlesnakes every night, so it is possible that the mythic beast had been trying to reach me. Hopefully the message can come in a dream, since a face-to-face meeting might mean a trip to the underworld, and my shamanic powers might not be strong enough to extricate me this time.

My journey continued past the dangers of Scylla and Charybdis, who I placated with stories and gifts I obtained from Pele, the mighty fire goddess, the last time I was in Hawaii. Pele loves gin and flowers and fruit, especially when accompanied by a song. She gifted me a story and told me to offer rum to the beasts on my journey so they would let me pass safely.

Near the end of my journey the sky turned dark and cloudy, and I battled strong winds and waves, watching the flash of lightning advance toward my vessel.  We arrived safely back at shore before the rains started, and I stepped onto solid ground happy to have survived my adventure.

The storm was real, even if the rest of the adventure was mostly not. My ship is a simple piece of molded yellow plastic in the shape of a kayak (well, it is a kayak after all). The sails are in my mind, as I power my small ship with a double headed paddle. The shaft is metal, so sitting in the middle of a lake holding a metal rod makes lightning a bit intimidating.

She was designed to surf in white-water rivers, but happily explores lakes.  And while she is light enough for me to slide in into the rack on top of my car without help, she is strong enough to be dragged across pebbly beaches and docks. And she is fearless in the face of Krakens and other monsters, whenever I choose to encounter them.

This is the joy of time alone on the lake. With no judgments or worries to distract me, and nothing to accomplish, I can create adventures galore and come home satiated and inspired. Tomorrow there might be pirates on the lake, or perhaps the love of my life adrift from a storm. Either way, I will be ready.

 

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Dr. Elisa Robyn, a modern-day Renaissance educator and leader, is the author of The Way of the Well, a spiritual romance, and Pirate Wisdom, lessons in leadership. Her eclectic career positions include geologist, Dean of Arts and Sciences, Vice President of Academic Affairs, Futurist, and Innovative Mojo Coach. Currently, Elisa is an executive director at Regis University. She holds a Masters degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, and a Ph.D. from the University of Colorado, Boulder. Her most current writings can be found at https://www.ElisaRobyn.com

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Elisa Robyn

Dr. Elisa Robyn, a modern-day Renaissance educator and leader, is the author of The Way of the Well, a spiritual romance, and Pirate Wisdom, lessons in leadership. Her eclectic career positions include geologist, Dean of Arts and Sciences, Vice President of Academic Affairs, Futurist, and Innovative Mojo Coach. Currently, Elisa is an executive director at Regis University. She holds a Masters degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, and a Ph.D. from the University of Colorado, Boulder.

Embrace the Pause by G. Brian Benson

It’s easy to feel good about things, and positive and optimistic about one’s future when things are going well. But it’s a whole heck of a lot harder to do that when we go into a dip in the proverbial roller coaster. I like to call this phase the Pause.

Just like the ocean, life moves in ebbs and flows. During those times when things feel slow, or I am tired and every step I take feels like I am mired in quicksand and my goals aren’t progressing, I can be really hard on myself. And we all know that these times can last for weeks or even longer.

Although it certainly always hasn’t been the case, lately when I find myself in the throes of a Pause, I’ve been really trying hard to simply embrace it and let myself rest, maybe taking that drive up the coast for a few days, refilling my cup. I also trust that things are moving behind the scenes and that this break or permission to take a vacation or a day off will ultimately get me headed in the right direction, giving me the energy and stronger intuitive channels to find myself back in the flow. 

I feel like we are given these pauses to provide us the opportunity to grow and release things that no longer serve us. But we have to be willing to do that. It’s human nature to push through or “numb” the Pause. We do all kinds of things to avoid it: shopping therapy, look for someone else to make us happy or validate us, spend too much time on social media, or spin our wheels while trying to work through it.

Usually, I have tried to “work through” or stay busy when I feel a wave of sadness or confusion come over me. But as I become more aware, I will consciously slow down and sit with it. Believe me when I say it’s not easy, one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do is give myself permission to just do nothing for a few days or a week, but if we can just sit with it and allow it to pass, instead of trying to push through it and keep it buried, that is when the magic happens. Giving us permission to pause, to not work through it, allowing time to breathe, and giving our intuition a chance to reveal our next step instead of fearfully trying to force it. When I do honor my feelings, things always seem to pick up quite nicely and move forward after I’ve paused, rested, stepped away for a moment.

Allow yourself to embrace the Pause. Sit with being uncomfortable for a few days or longer, sit with your sadness, and sit with your confusion. It’s okay, it’s part of life’s ebb and flow… the answers will come, trust they are in there and allow them to show themselves. You don’t need to fix anything, let yourself rest, love yourself, and know that you are enough. See what comes up for your own growth process. You will be better for it.

I am an Advisor at 12Listen and look forward to helping guide you through problems big and small. 

Sincerely, 
G. Brian Benson

Saying Yes To Your Inner Voice - How I Became A Radio Host With No Experience

Nearly three years ago, I became a weekly radio show host. I didn’t have a polished business plan meticulously outlining the vision, strategy, benefits, or risks. I just had a feeling that it would be good for me and thankfully I listened to that inner voice. I’d done some public speaking engagements for my day job, and I am equal parts Mexican and Portuguese with the gift of gab. So I just figured how hard could it really be?

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I don’t have millions of listeners, and I’ve had a bumpy road, but it has blossomed into one of the best things I’ve ever done in my life. I’ve learned so much about live radio, met so many inspiring people and more importantly I have learned so much about myself and discovered my authentic voice.  I decided to write about my experience because I hope that by sharing my story, you too might be encouraged to listen to your inner voice and explore new endeavors that will lead you to self-discovery and ultimately joy!

So this is how it all began. I was helping a friend with her new weekly radio show. I was in full marketing consultant mode discussing her strategy when I said, “maybe I should start a show too?”  My friend said, "that might be good, let me think about it."

I translated that to, a kind no and I had no idea why I’d even mentioned it. What was I thinking?

Well, a few weeks later my friend called and said she spoke to the station owner and he was interested, and a month later I was a radio host for a live 55-minute weekly show! My initial excitement immediately vanished and was replaced with immense fear. What had I done?  

My husband got my home studio (or more specifically, my kitchen table) ready for my live radio debut. He found me all of the coolest equipment, and I contributed a picture of my mother, the inspiration for me to become, Molé Mama! I lit a candle to perfect my creative space, took a deep breath, and checked my support system (husband, cool as a cucumber in case something went wrong with the electronics...or me).

My show notes were neatly organized in PowerPoint slides, and my laptop was sprinkled with stickies reminding me to smile and speak slowly. I was ready, or so I thought. During those first terrifying shows my husband sat at the end of the table and would hold up large cards with inspiring phrases, suggestions on where to take the conversation, and he was my biggest cheerleader.

I quickly found that sitting in a room by yourself, speaking into radio-land and trying to find something meaningful to say every week was proving to be the most terrifying thing I’ve ever tried. I would spend 20 hours creating content for a 55-minute show only to burn through it all in the first 15 minutes. Fifty-five minutes seemed like a lifetime.

My heart would be racing out of control with panic as my producer whispered in my headphones suggestions of things to talk about when he sensed I’d run out of content.  And while telling stories about cooking with my mama in her final months and how we both came to grips with her imminent departure was delightful, the prep and the intensity of it, well… I wanted to quit. Thankfully my husband was persistent and managed to get me to commit to putting in my best effort for 6 months. He also gave me a graceful exit by explaining that if at the end of that time I still felt the same way then walk away and know that I gave it my all and it’s not for me. I had to get honest with him and most of all, I had to get honest with myself.

 

Molé Mama recording a live radio show.

Eventually,  it got a little easier. My cousin saw my dedication and decided that she was in for the ride (no matter how short it might turn out to be). She began to book amazing chefs and entrepreneurs who are passionate about their businesses and have inspiring stories.

A few weeks ago while celebrating my 100th show and the launch of my new podcast, it hit me, my radio show had morphed into my dream gig! My inner voice had launched me onto a platform where I met and will continue to meet amazing chefs who open their hearts, kitchens, and share their stories with me! The connection and love I experienced with my mama while we cooked that had been lost when she died had resurfaced with my guests, and this is why I loved it so much. This was the connection my soul craved and mourned, to connect with others thru their love of food.

I’m so incredibly grateful that I listened to my inner voice (that occasionally sounds like my husband) and I didn’t quit.

What did I learn?

  1. Joy is my ultimate measurement of success! Life had conditioned me to believe that hard work worth doing earns lots of money. Reframing my ideas about success required a lot of soul searching and unlearning. Loving what I do and helping others are my 2 new measurements, and they make my heart smile.
  2. I’m capable of learning something entirely new at any age! Learning to be a radio host has been like learning to ride a bike. I started on a tricycle, moved to a 2 wheeler with training wheels and eventually I’ll be on a speed racer; be patient, and you will progress.
  3. Amazing people will show up to help you! I continue to be astounded by the support I continue to receive from my husband, family, friends, my radio family, guests, and listeners!  
  4. Listen to your inner voice, it’s trying to help you! I love my weekly radio show, and I continue to learn so much and be genuinely inspired by my guests. After most recordings, my face hurts from smiling for 55 minutes!

So remember to say yes to your inner voice! Your inner voice knows what you want most, and through all the noise it will always be there cheering for you if you only stop to listen.

Listen to my live radio show, Molé Mama Cooking With Love @12radio.com Thursday evenings @6:00pm PDT. To listen to my podcast go to iTunesGoogle Play, and Sticher.

Reach out if you’d like to be a guest on my show or to refer a potential guest.

Big hugs,

Molé Mama

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Diana Silva aka Mole Mama!

Diana Silva is a San Francisco-based home chef, author, video blogger and radio host. Her Molé Mama Recipes YouTube channel celebrates family recipes, cooking delicious meals at home and adding love to every recipe. Diving into her Latina roots, she uses her magical molcajete, and other tools and techniques that make her food taste like grandma used to make back in Mexico. Along with her guest chefs, Diana explores recipes and traditions from all over the world and the stories that keep them alive. Diana is calling everyone to return to their kitchens and to preserve their living and passed ancestor’s favorite recipes and stories for future generations. “We need to try to preserve our cultures and not just let those favorite recipes disappear forever. The common thread of every cherished family recipe is that they were homemade with love, and that’s the real secret ingredient,” says Diana. For many home chefs, cooking is their preferred love language, and that’s why we cherish their recipes. Their love has the power to transcend an ordinary recipe into magic! Diana encourages everyone to preserve those precious recipes and the stories that make them special. She invites those whose recipes have been lost or have faded over time to subscribe to her YouTube channel, there are plenty of recipes and traditions to share, and you just might be inspired to create your own because, “Every Recipe Tells a Story.” Many of the recipes in this book are on her YouTube channel. Diana credits her sweet mother Rose for her love of food, cooking and entertaining. She was just nine years old and when her culinary training began. Rose was making her legendary flour tortillas, and Diana’s big job was to mix the masa. Rose expertly poured water, flour, salt and a little baking powder in the bowl and Diana eagerly put her small hands in the bowl and tried to follow her mother's patient instructions on how to mix it. Diana loved the way the sticky dough felt in her little fingers. She was so very proud and excited to help her mama. Diana didn't understand the road she had embarked on that afternoon and the joy she’d experience cooking with her mother for more than 20 years. She is grateful for these treasured memories now that her mother is in heaven. Molé Mama; A Memoir of Love, Cooking and Loss - can be purchased on Amazon . You Tube Channel here